#35 - To tie the knot

I was inspired to do up this post because of Mia's question on Nikah Gantung and what's my take on it.
Instead of replying her on the tagboard (kang panjang berjela nanti), i figured doing up a post would be even better!

I think i have mentioned somewhere on my blog, now that we have secured a house, we may need to Nikah Gantung.
By Nikah Gantung, that would mean going through the Solemnisation first, (it can be at home or at the ROMM) and then have the reception later.

I know the norm is for people to do a 2-day reception and get things done and over with.
But circumstances are different for me. I got my house early and i'm left with no choice but to expedite the Solemnisation.
(Not that i'm complaining)

Furthermore, we have no plans to take up any Renovation Loan as we are currently paying for the Car.
So , it's either the car or the renovation loan. I prefer the car. Honestly.

However, we are able to manage our renovation without taking up any loan because the Kitchen and Toilets are already renovated by HDB.
We only need to do up the Living room and Bedrooms.

Furnitures and some other stuff we need for the house will also take up a huge chunk of our savings.
Hence, we decided it would be best if we settle the house bit by bit, Nikah and then have a reception a year later.

As cliche as it may sound, i still think the most important thing is to Nikah. The Reception is secondary.

Lucky for me, some of my cousins have done the same things, so i figured it will go well with my older relatives.
However, i do anticipate people talking behind our backs. Seriously i do and to be honest, i don't care what they wanna say about me and this arrangement we have.

Thought i should share this story with you guys:
I have a cousin (Let's call her A) who badmouths about my cousin B cos she had to Nikah Gantung cos she got a House early. (Same situation as me.)
Cousin A, will be getting married the following month after Cousin B and just have to compare her wedding with Cousin B.
Kept telling all our cousins that her deco mahal lah.. Her baju all tailor-made and yada2..

The breaking point was during my Cousin B nya Nikah Day. She saw Cousin B punya Hantaran.
She asked Cousin B "Hantaran kau tu aje?" after the whole Nikah ceremony.She then proceeded to tell the rest of us her FH bought her a Prada Tote bag as part of the Hantaran gift.

I then told her off and told Cousin B to display her House floor plan and all HDB Documents as part of the Hantaran.
That would surely make her Prada bag pale in comparison.

Bottomline is, people will talk and there is no way you can stop them. Let them talk about it. They just need something to talk about.
At most, they will talk about it for one week, until something more interesting comes up.
You will be blissfully married by then. Who cares what people wanna say?

Ultimately, u are paying for your own wedding and you did not ask their help to sponsor for the wedding.
Talk is cheap. They can talk but if we throw them in the same situation, they would have done the same.

So to fellow Nikah Gantung brides, don't worry.
People who gossips and talks about you, they should not matter to you.
The ones who matters to you are the ones who are genuinely happy about you.